Fear Series: Writing and Publishing My Book Might Change the Way Others View Me
on July 27th, 2021
One of the greatest vulnerabilities is telling the behind-the-scenes story of your life, brand, or business to a larger audience, because it means letting others know parts of yourself that maybe you have kept hidden. Failures, dreams, doubts, victories, and setbacks are all elements that might make an appearance. Some of these moments we don’t even like to look at ourselves, much less invite others to do, too!
Writing a Book Means Being Vulnerable
However, being vulnerable in storytelling means being authentically you. And sometimes that means uncovering parts of yourself that you may not have known before. This kind of vulnerability paralyzes many authors and keeps them from ever writing their book. They are trapped in thoughts like, What if a friend or relative reads my story, and they don’t recognize the person in the pages? Will they think I am not who they thought I was? Or even, What if they recognize themselves in my book and get upset?
Author Gen Georget puts it this way: “I am nervous about what people are going to think, and I am nervous about putting that very authentic part of myself out there and possibly having people prefer who I was before. I think it is pretty human to have that fear, but that is the lesson that I have been going through—I am realizing that I have to be okay, regardless of what they feel . . . [because writing this book] feels a lot more like me.”
When an author worries so much about what someone might think, they can leave out authentic, compelling parts of themselves and their story. The end result is a glossed-over, highly filtered narrative that is missing depth and emotion.
The Heart of Writing a Book
Whether your book is about your personal or business life—or both—you need to appear authentically in its pages. Without vulnerability, something will be missing from your book—its heart.
Cody McLain, author of From Foster Care to Millionaire, says that telling his personal story was a foundation for making deeper connections with an audience: “I’ve seen how using story gives people something to hold on to.”
Be brave in telling all of the parts of your story. Most of the time, you’ll find that being vulnerable doesn’t push people away but rather connects you on a deeper level. Your personal experiences make for a unique and authentic story that cannot be replicated.
“When an author worries so much about what someone might think, they can leave out authentic, compelling parts of themselves and their story.”
If you are going to be vulnerable, you need a safe space to do it. A place that honors your story and guides you through the process. When writing your book, you don’t have to feel alone or overlooked.
- “From weekly coaching calls to feedback, editing, and book cover design, my first book was created with support from a team of people who listen with their heart and make magic happen with their talent.” —Melanie Baker Trimarco
- “I think anyone that would want to make sure their vision [and] their voice is heard through a book they’ve written will find that they can work very well with the RTC team.” —Carolynn Brooks