Connect, Heal, and Transform: Why Your Story Needs to Be Told

By: Annie Rose Stathes in Book Writing
on March 11th, 2019

Human beings have used storytelling throughout time to create connection, facilitate healing, and coax transformation. As storytellers at RTC, we engage with this art every day. We work with clients—with you—to collaboratively pull apart the fabric of your life and the events therein, and we look at the pieces together, thread by thread. Through that practice, we pay homage to the colors and textures of your life—whether bold, silky reds; shaggy, tattered grays; or flimsy, sun-faded bits that seem not to belong.

We engage in our collective pulling apart of your story in a safe space, one where we can laugh and cry and, yes, even shake our heads and shout. We weave our fingers through your tapestry—this fabric made of your beliefs, experiences, perspectives, dreams, and fears. Consistent shapes and predictable lines emerge, and we see your story’s pattern revealing itself. It has been dying—for as many years as you’ve been alive—to be seen.

At some point, maybe even before we’ve begun, you ask, often out loud, “Who am I to share my story? What makes me think my story is more important than anyone else’s? You’re worried that perhaps you’re too ordinary, too boring, too cocky to think that someone else would want to read your words. We listen to you and we nod our heads. We know this one well. And we tell you, with the loose threads of your entire life strewn in mad chaos across our laps, that “We, fellow human, are storytellers.”

Storytellers embrace the idea that every single person’s words are as important as anyone else’s, not because they’re inherently more fascinating, but because they capture the vast yet universal experiences of being human. For the storyteller and her audience, storytelling serves as a conduit for seeing and being seen, holding out one’s hand and having it held, connecting one heart to another until community sparks and arises. Storytelling offers a way of creating and being in the world, richly and fully, no matter who you are and what you have or haven’t done.

Storytelling, we show you—as we bend and spin our fingers, weaving with you a new picture from your life’s original threads—is your birthright. It is a revealing of and the reveling in the events that made you who you are; it is an invitation to others to reach out their long fingers and to touch with trembling tips the threads that they see in themselves. Storytelling, as a birthright, welcomes others to widen their eyes in recognition and open their hearts in hope. Storytelling, as a birthright, curates a space in which people—living, breathing human beings—can finally feel seen, heard, and held.

You’ll recognize your birthright as a storyteller. Our coaching calls will fly through your calendar, laced with eagerness, doubt, curiosity, and fear. We will coax you through this process of transformation. We will invite you to trust that the unraveling of who you’ve known yourself to be is safe and secure, a necessary part of connecting, healing, and transforming. Eventually, through many sweaty nights, ah-ha moments, and hands clenched tightly around our most beloved threads, we’ll collectively let go and declare our story—your story—complete, ready for another’s eyes, ears, and heart. We will have shapeshifted, and we will invite our beloved others to do the same.

In truth, your story isn’t any more or less worthwhile than anyone else’s. But all of our stories are woven with threads of pure gold. When we deny the value of our experiences, we tighten the threads of our humanity and keep the warmth of its fabric to ourselves. We steal from others the chance to connect. To heal. To transform.

Why would we do that?

We wouldn’t, would we?

And so we tell our stories.